Yesterday I shared with you some of the delicious side-effects of dating yourself. One of the most common responses I get to that advice is ‘I don’t know what to do’ so today, I’m gonna give you some ideas for dates with yourself.
Take yourself out for a meal; breakfast, lunch or dinner. Doesn’t matter. Just take yourself someplace that makes you happy.
Take yourself to a movie.
Visit a local cafe and have a coffee or tea & pastry.
Netflix & chill solo. *chuckle* Shower or even better, take a hot bath, get into some clean pjs that make you happy, pop some popcorn and watch that movie or binge a bit on that show you love.
Take a class; a cooking class, a painting class, a pole dance class *giggle*. Classes are great dates with a partner so they’ll be great solo dates as well.
Where are your favorite places to go on dates to? You can totally go most of those places solo.
So tell me, when & where was your last date with you?
This post is late. It’s usually done and ready for you by 4:44 am CST however … Life so as I was pondering what to share with you and how to tie it into International Women’s Day, ‘Brave’ by Sara Brailles came on my YouTube playlist. In that moment, I knew exactly what to share with you today.
For the past week, I have been practicing speaking my Truth. This is not something that I’m really good at doing even though I’m a masterful storyteller and I love to talk. When it comes to speaking my Truth with love and compassion, I have much left to practice. Generally, when my feelings are hurt, I withdraw. Anger also usually causes me to withdraw. Pain usually builds up in me before I say something to the person and then, it’s an explosion. The alternative is that I cut them off altogether and they have no idea what happened.
Last week, I put an end to this pattern by telling my friend of 13 years why I stopped speaking as openly and freely with her. It has been nearly 3 years since the hurt occurred and yet, I’m only now telling her what the hurt was and why it took place. Wow! Next up was to tell a guy I’d been seeing last fall, who was still around where I stood in terms of dating him again. There were more conversations and the more of them I had, the easier they were to have.
In the song, Sara says,
Innocence, your history of silence
Won’t do you any good
Did you think it would?
Let your words be anything but empty
Why don’t you tell them the truth?
My silence wasn’t doing me any good. I woke up Thursday morning, angry and with a sore throat. When I started speaking my truth (and applying eucalyptus essential oil), the pain in my throat subsided. Speaking my Truth with love and compassion not only helped my heart feel lighter, it also helped my body feel better.
So, in honor of International Women’s Day, I invite you to be brave and speak your Truth with love and compassion to everyone who is overdue for a conversation with you. If you would like some support in having that conversation, don’t hesitate to reach out to me for some strategizing and coaching.
March is National Women’s History month. This month,, we celebrate the women who have gone before us and paved the way so that we are able to have the freedoms and privileges that we currently enjoy. Over the course of the month, I will be highlighting some of my sheroes and why they make my heart go pitter patter. Today though, I want to talk about one. very. special woman. Today, we’re going to talk about you.
Everything that has happened in your life has happened to lead to you becoming the magnificent masterpiece that you are. Pain has made you stronger. Loss has made you more resilient. Love has made you lighter. Living has made you wiser. The children have made you more creative. *chuckle* Working has taught you cooperation, consistency and patience.
So, when was the last time you celebrated your history? I invite you to do that now. Light some candles, brew a mug of tea or pour a glass of wine, sit with your journal and chronicle your personal history. Write down every thing that has ever impacted you and how that experience has made you into the woman that you are now. Celebrate your history!
What’s magnificent about you that you’d forgotten until now? Tell us in the comments below.